There is nothing wrong with you…

Being a mum, being a wife, being a daughter, being a friend, being a sister, being a business owner or an employee… OMG it can be sooo stressful!

Like you never, ever can keep all the balls in the air and everybody satisfied! And then that nagging feeling… what the hell am I doing wrong? Why do others seem to have it together, but I am NOT finding to be in control at all?

You are not alone my dear, trust me. We ALL have the same feeling, we all have the same insecurities.

This week I am studying this subject in more debt. Do you know where that ever doubting, insecure feeling is coming from? From the part of your brain that is programmed to keep you safe. Your instinct center and the part that has been in women for many, many years. I comes down to a behavior that was super important when we weren’t as mentally developed as we are today. A part that, in a way, behaves the same as monkeys. For monkeys it is super important to have a group. A group means survival in the big scary jungle. Monkeys also have the primal need to have babies. To make sure that the female monkeys stay in the group and do their job as a mum, we have a sublime sense for danger to make sure our kids stay save. The more insecure and alert they are, the more protection she gets from the males and the better her senses need to work to focus on possible danger. Super handful when we were living in caves as well, but we AREN”T anymore!

But women still, because of that primal part of our brain, feel insecure and super sensitive for danger. And where society and innovations rapidly changed our daily life and demands, that part of our brain didn’t developed that quickly.

When you feel insecure, you feel hyper sensitive and stressed because of it, you are not alone. Really, you are not.

Knowing how to deal with the released stress and hormones can be a big help in your daily life. Creating more space in your day to calm the nervous system and knowing that other parts of your brain are developed to take logical, calm decisions, can be a good way to look at it.

If you struggle to get that space into your day because all of the responsibilities you feel you have, please get in touch:

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Lieke Jansen